MeiFon

It was 2330.  Time to begin our plan.  I got out from the house quietly and pushed my motorbike quite a distance from my house before I started to engine.  It was late and I did not want to disturb my neighbours.

I went to Leh Kee’s house.  She was ready.  It was then I noticed that I forgot to bring several things.  Cursing under my breath, Leh Kee and I went back to my house to get them.

When the task was accomplished, we went to Amy’s house.  In the silence of the night, we thought there was no need to miscall her to come out since the bike’s engine was loud enough.  Seconds passed, still no response from her house.  So Leh Kee called her twice without anyone answering.  I tried to call and presto…someone answered! 

“Ni zai na li?” I blurted out.  Nothing seemed to be going right that night.  No response for the other side.  “Hello?”  I asked.  And a strange voice answered me back, “I’m sorry but Amy is sleeping right now.”

One person ‘down’.  Now it was only me and Leh Kee.  Though we were a bit discouraged without the most-playful-and-daring friend, we felt we need to carry through what we had planned earlier.

Ladies and Gentlemen, today is Connie’s birthday!!!  Our mission was to go to her house before midnight, do some havoc and be the first to wish her HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!  But without Amy, we cancel the havoc part (lucky you Connie to be escaping all these…) and just wished her a solemn but happy HAPPY BIRTHDAY. 

Connie was really happy seeing us there.  Leh Kee and I failed to proceed with our ‘marvelous’ plans, but seeing her so delighted means everything to us. 

And I was reminded - that the proverb “It’s the thought that counts” is true after all.

Happy birthday, Connie.

I woke up this morning and switched on my phone. A message came through.  It was a daily message on World Cup update. England and Poland passed and moved to quarter finals.  I threw my phone away.

Another message came.  My close friend’s mother had passed away. And for ten minutes, I was rooted on where I was standing, trying to digest the hard reality.

I am hurt, but she must be hurting more at this moment. I am too sad to be even able to think of what to write in this blog.

Friends, pray for Kam Chui and her family.  Let us, Sarikei youth unite together and pray hard with the one same purpose.

My sister and I were watching tv together and talking at the same time.  Suddenly, the normal talk turned into a fierce debate on whether it’s right for girls to lose their virginity to guys before marriage.

I told her that I felt it was ok for DESPERATE girls to do so, as long as they realize the consequences following it.  Of course, my first stand is that we must not lose those precious moments to the person that we aren’t sure to be spending our whole life with.  However, sometimes you have friends that won’t take your advice.  They feel that love overcomes everything.  No matter how much saliva you waste or how hard you try to open the ‘common sense door’, they are willing to sacrifice their ….errrr….. maidenhead. 

When this happens and I can see that my friend won’t stand back from her decision, I will switch to ‘free-thinker-mode’ kind of friend.  I will let my friend do whatever she wanted and when she ran back to me crying, I’ll be there for her.  As a friend, I do not have the right to force my friends into following my advice.  I can only speak and make follow-up and be a concern friend, but that’s all.  I won’t step over the boundary. 

This is the part my sister did not agree.  She believes as a friend, we must try our very best to help in every ways we can.  If not, we have failed as a friend.  My sister won’t be there when the friend ran back to her crying.  My sister had warned her friend earlier, so she did not feel that she will be able to comfort her friend.  Also, she feels that as a friend, it means helping and guiding a lost friend to correct path.  (I’m sure glad she’s my sister.  I can rely and trust on her to lead me to the correct path.)  I know my sister is a very soft-hearted and caring person and she continued by giving me lots of reasons why it’s important for us girls to protect ourselves … and she bla bla bla…

Both of us concluded 30 minutes later, that we realize virginity is important.  What we disagree is the role of a friend when facing such dilemma on another friend(s).

One of the reasons we should protect ourselves – my sister told me that is that after the first night, girls will guard the secret fiercely, telling not a soul about it.  Guys on the other hand (JERK!!!), will hang out with the other males and tell everyone how great it felt and who the poor girl was.  Words passed around, soon most people knew about it, even the girl’s friends.  Damn, how come it sounds terribly familiar to me??? 

Are you wiling to take this repercussion?  This is just one, there are other worse conseuquences.  If you do, my friend, I can switch to ‘free-thinker mode’ anytime you want.